What is it about bad boys? Why do we time and time again, chose to ignore all logic, and hopelessly fall head over heels in love with the bad boy? Yes, you know the type....cocky, arrogant, selfish, always putting himself first, inattentive to a woman's needs, does whatever he wants whenever he wants (regardless what anyone else thinks), loose cannons, delinquents. And yet we cannot resist their untamed and overtly male masculinity. My favourite song at the moment is "Good Girls Go Bad" by Cobra Starship featuring Leighton Meester, I think the lyrics sums it up pretty well....
I know your type,
Boy, you're dangerous
Yeah, you're that guy (That guy) I'd be stupid to trust
But just one night couldn't be so wrong
You make me wanna lose control...
One of my favourite books of all time is "Gone With The Wind". To this day, I am still very much in love with Rhett Butler...and aren't we all? So what is it really about these bad boys? Some say it's because they're dangerous and cocky with their devilish grin, they're just exciting! Their overt masculinity is just oozing sexuality, it's a chemical thing, when our sex pheromones come into play, hmmm....well what else can I say. Some might even like the challenge of trying to break that icy cold shell that surrounds an equally cold and empty heart....yes, some of us really like a good challenge. Some are just drawn to a lost cause, a lost soul that needs to be saved. Some are simply intrigued by all the mystery and some are just simply attracted to the opposite. Why is it that in all the really good love stories and movies, the girl always leaves the clean-cut rich guy for the guy on the wrong side of the tracks? Have we been brainwashed by all these stories or are these stories a true reflection of reality?
Can we really save a lost soul? Can we really break that icy shell? Can we really read their poker face? Do they really have a heart? Can the bad boys really turn good or do the good girls go bad? When we find ourselves falling for a bad boy like Chuck Bass, can we really blame anyone else but ourselves for our broken heart?
Monday, July 20, 2009
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
"Drama Queen" Or Just Emotionally Honest?
I've always been a very emotional, very passionate person and it comes across in everything that I say or do. I wear my heart on my sleeve and I'm proud of it! I embrace all my emotions and I express them freely with my family, my friends and my patients. I think emotions are extremely important, it defines us, it guides us, it unites us, it is what makes us human. I'm not only emotional but I'm emotionally honest. I say what I feel and I feel what I say.
My life has been somewhat of a roller coaster lately, sometimes I'm up and sometimes I'm down. Some days I'm a complete emotional train wreck, some days I'm the life of the party. I believe my life is a drama unfolding, every scene has it's own emotions, it's own purpose and it's own moral value. I believe that there's something to be learned from everything and everyone....from all my experiences, from the people I've met, from the patients I've treated, from the places that I have been to. I think everyone and everything that is here in my drama of a life has a reason. Sometimes I feel I think too much, sometimes I think I feel too much. So am I a "Drama Queen" or am I just emotionally honest?
I'm currently taking some time off from work to pursue my ultimate passion....writing. It is not easy, everyday I have to explain to my patients why I need to do this. They tell me that they will miss me and I tell them I'm doing this not because I want to leave them. I need to take some time off in order to pursue my dream of becoming a writer because I want to be with them forever. That's the problem with me, I am extremely honest and my consultations end up being rather lengthy. But I suppose that is why my patients love me, they can always count on me to be completely honest. They're not only my patients, they're my friends. When they are sick or they have problems, be it medical or not, I'm always there listening and sometimes offering advice. It's emotionally draining but I wouldn't want to live my life any other way.
I guess what I'm trying to say in my typical long winded manner is, emotion is very important. Being able to feel is what makes us human. Being in touch with my emotions makes me a better person, a better doctor. It saddens me to see how society discourages emotional honesty.We tell our children to say sorry when they didn't actually feel like saying it, we tell them to say thank you when in fact they did not feel thankful. We tell them...stop crying, stop complaining, stop being melodramatic.....we tell our children to stop feeling. We rarely stop to listen to their feelings. We tell them to just accept certain things, do not question, do not feel, c'est la vie.
I'm genuinely worried that our children will grow up emotionally challenged. I'm especially concerned about our boys who are being emotionally crippled by our society. Is it really true that men are from mars and women are from venus or are we simply a product of our environment?
I believe emotions are extremely important. You have to be emotionally aware in order to be happy. You have to be emotionally aware to be emotionally honest. You have to be emotionally honest if you want self acceptance and self love. I would rather be called a Drama Queen than an Ice Queen anyday. How about you?
My life has been somewhat of a roller coaster lately, sometimes I'm up and sometimes I'm down. Some days I'm a complete emotional train wreck, some days I'm the life of the party. I believe my life is a drama unfolding, every scene has it's own emotions, it's own purpose and it's own moral value. I believe that there's something to be learned from everything and everyone....from all my experiences, from the people I've met, from the patients I've treated, from the places that I have been to. I think everyone and everything that is here in my drama of a life has a reason. Sometimes I feel I think too much, sometimes I think I feel too much. So am I a "Drama Queen" or am I just emotionally honest?
I'm currently taking some time off from work to pursue my ultimate passion....writing. It is not easy, everyday I have to explain to my patients why I need to do this. They tell me that they will miss me and I tell them I'm doing this not because I want to leave them. I need to take some time off in order to pursue my dream of becoming a writer because I want to be with them forever. That's the problem with me, I am extremely honest and my consultations end up being rather lengthy. But I suppose that is why my patients love me, they can always count on me to be completely honest. They're not only my patients, they're my friends. When they are sick or they have problems, be it medical or not, I'm always there listening and sometimes offering advice. It's emotionally draining but I wouldn't want to live my life any other way.
I guess what I'm trying to say in my typical long winded manner is, emotion is very important. Being able to feel is what makes us human. Being in touch with my emotions makes me a better person, a better doctor. It saddens me to see how society discourages emotional honesty.We tell our children to say sorry when they didn't actually feel like saying it, we tell them to say thank you when in fact they did not feel thankful. We tell them...stop crying, stop complaining, stop being melodramatic.....we tell our children to stop feeling. We rarely stop to listen to their feelings. We tell them to just accept certain things, do not question, do not feel, c'est la vie.
I'm genuinely worried that our children will grow up emotionally challenged. I'm especially concerned about our boys who are being emotionally crippled by our society. Is it really true that men are from mars and women are from venus or are we simply a product of our environment?
I believe emotions are extremely important. You have to be emotionally aware in order to be happy. You have to be emotionally aware to be emotionally honest. You have to be emotionally honest if you want self acceptance and self love. I would rather be called a Drama Queen than an Ice Queen anyday. How about you?
Friday, July 3, 2009
Dr. Roslin's 5 Secret Tips on Losing Weight
Being a general practitioner, I tend to have tips and advice for everything, there are many types of advice, safe ones, textbook ones, effective ones etc. I had to be creative with the limited resources that I had but most of all, my years and experience have taught me which advice works and which don't. There are many weight loss tips out there and I don't feel I need to repeat them, what I chose to share today are some secret tips that you might or might not have heard before. I'm not saying these tips are safe or guaranteed to work as each person is different.
1. Become a hermit, a recluse, try it for a month...do not meet your friends or family, do not go out to lunch/dinner, do not do your grocery shopping, spend quality time by yourself at home and just finish up whatever you have stocked in your larder or kitchen. "See no evil, eat no evil"
2. Stop cooking. Cooking equals passion for food. Stop the passion, stop trying to make your food taste better, it's all the cooking that's adding all the oil and nasty stuff. Eat fresh or dried fruits and vegetables, stop cooking, save energy and save the world. Okay, if you really have to cook, just roast or steam, do not add oil, do not add flavouring, do not add passion.
3. Develop a nasty bout of gastroenteritis or irritable bowel syndrome. Stuff yourself with all sorts of so called good food from kenduri, pasar malam, restaurant/cafe/gerai of questionable cleanliness and wait a few hours/days. If that doesn't work, try eating nasi lemak or soto ayam with generous helpings of the sambal. Purging will soon follow. You might even get some vomiting. Once infected, you have to go on a strict diet of ORS, isotonic drinks and porridge for a while. That sort of a diet will make anyone lose their appetite. Better yet, if you can't take the strict diet, follow your heart's desire, go on and take that nasi lemak you've been craving, that will in turn irritate and aggravate further your already inflammed bowel and probably give you another few days of purging.
4. Embrace your emotions, especially the stresses that you feel either from your work, relationships, life, or just watch your favourite soap opera (mine is Desperate Housewives and Gossip Girl by the way) and pretend that it's all happening to you. You can even start worrying about the ozone layer and global warming. Just embrace all the negative emotions, start worrying and stressing about everything and pretty soon you'll end up with a stress ulcer or better yet a duodenal ulcer. Duodenal ulcer will give you pain after eating, the pain itself will most probably deter you from eating. You also have to follow a strict diet which will also reduce your appetite further.
5. Have a broken heart. This one can go either way, some people stuff themselves when they're sad and some just lose their appetite completely. You must first ascertain which category do you belong to before proceeding further. This last advice is only to be taken as a last resort, when all other measures have failed and failed miserably. It is not without consequences and you have to be absolutely sure your heart can take it.
These secret tips have been revealed only because many of you have requested it, it is not without side effects, it is not without consequences, it maybe unsafe, but for those of you who are desperate...it might just work. Please consult with a doctor before attempting steps 3 & 4. Please consult your heart before attempting step 5. If anyone needs further assistance, you know where to find me.
1. Become a hermit, a recluse, try it for a month...do not meet your friends or family, do not go out to lunch/dinner, do not do your grocery shopping, spend quality time by yourself at home and just finish up whatever you have stocked in your larder or kitchen. "See no evil, eat no evil"
2. Stop cooking. Cooking equals passion for food. Stop the passion, stop trying to make your food taste better, it's all the cooking that's adding all the oil and nasty stuff. Eat fresh or dried fruits and vegetables, stop cooking, save energy and save the world. Okay, if you really have to cook, just roast or steam, do not add oil, do not add flavouring, do not add passion.
3. Develop a nasty bout of gastroenteritis or irritable bowel syndrome. Stuff yourself with all sorts of so called good food from kenduri, pasar malam, restaurant/cafe/gerai of questionable cleanliness and wait a few hours/days. If that doesn't work, try eating nasi lemak or soto ayam with generous helpings of the sambal. Purging will soon follow. You might even get some vomiting. Once infected, you have to go on a strict diet of ORS, isotonic drinks and porridge for a while. That sort of a diet will make anyone lose their appetite. Better yet, if you can't take the strict diet, follow your heart's desire, go on and take that nasi lemak you've been craving, that will in turn irritate and aggravate further your already inflammed bowel and probably give you another few days of purging.
4. Embrace your emotions, especially the stresses that you feel either from your work, relationships, life, or just watch your favourite soap opera (mine is Desperate Housewives and Gossip Girl by the way) and pretend that it's all happening to you. You can even start worrying about the ozone layer and global warming. Just embrace all the negative emotions, start worrying and stressing about everything and pretty soon you'll end up with a stress ulcer or better yet a duodenal ulcer. Duodenal ulcer will give you pain after eating, the pain itself will most probably deter you from eating. You also have to follow a strict diet which will also reduce your appetite further.
5. Have a broken heart. This one can go either way, some people stuff themselves when they're sad and some just lose their appetite completely. You must first ascertain which category do you belong to before proceeding further. This last advice is only to be taken as a last resort, when all other measures have failed and failed miserably. It is not without consequences and you have to be absolutely sure your heart can take it.
These secret tips have been revealed only because many of you have requested it, it is not without side effects, it is not without consequences, it maybe unsafe, but for those of you who are desperate...it might just work. Please consult with a doctor before attempting steps 3 & 4. Please consult your heart before attempting step 5. If anyone needs further assistance, you know where to find me.
My Fairy Tale
In fairy tales, you read about meeting your prince charming, getting married and living happily ever after. It always ends there.....a perfect life.....a happy ending. Yes, I had my fairy tale, I had my perfect ending. I fell in love, married my prince charming, had two children and became a devoted wife, devoted mom, devoted daughter and devoted doctor.
What happens after you get your perfect ending? Is it happily ever after? This is my journey in my quest to search for that ever elusive happy ending, it's a struggle, it's a climb, it's my life.
What happens after you get your perfect ending? Is it happily ever after? This is my journey in my quest to search for that ever elusive happy ending, it's a struggle, it's a climb, it's my life.
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